“To err is human, to forgive divine.”

The act of asking and giving forgiveness is an essential part of the human experience. Whether your child breaks your favorite vase, someone cuts you off in traffic, your co-worker bad mouths you at work, or you and your spouse have a misunderstanding, every day we encounter situations that require us to exercise forgiveness. As it turns out, when we practice this key to spiritual living our health improves.

About.com has an extensive health section that is reviewed and supported by the Medical Review Board. Here is what About.com had to say on the topic of forgiveness.

• Forgiveness is good for your heart — literally. One study from the Journal of Behavioral Medicine found forgiveness to be associated with lower heart rate and blood pressure as well as stress relief. This can bring long-term health benefits for your heart and overall health.
• A later study found forgiveness to be positively associated with five measures of health: physical symptoms, medications used, sleep quality, fatigue, and somatic complaints. It seems that the reduction in negative affect (depressive symptoms), strengthened spirituality, conflict management and stress relief one finds through forgiveness all have a significant impact on overall health.
• A third study, published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, found that forgiveness not only restores positive thoughts, feelings and behaviors toward the offending party (in other words, forgiveness restores the relationship to its previous positive state), but the benefits of forgiveness spill over to positive behaviors toward others outside of the relationship. Forgiveness is associated with more volunteerism, donating to charity, and other altruistic behaviors. (And the converse is true of non-forgiveness.)

Barbara Y. Martin explains that when we truly forgive we are alining ourselves with our divine nature. When we give genuine forgiveness it appears in the aura as the pink light of divine love, and when we ask for forgiveness it can appear as the purple light of peace. The act of asking for and giving forgiveness brings in the higher dimensions of consciousness.

Dimitri Moraitis emphasizes that when we forgive we’re actually freeing ourselves from negative and detrimental energy. If we choose not to forgive, we tie ourselves to the person/situation that created the disturbing condition to begin with.

It is hugely important to forgive as soon as possible. Why? Because the longer we hold on to the offense, perceived or real, the more difficult it becomes to forgive and move forward.

To help the forgiveness process ask the deep rose pink light of divine love to go the person you are forgiving, or the person you are asking forgiveness from. See yourself and the other person encircled in the pink light. Pray that everyone involved be uplifted in love. You can also ask the angels to enfold the other person in the light of love. You may have to forgive many times, but stay with it until you feel the release.

No matter what someone does, you have the power to forgive.
This is one of the greatest tools of healing you will ever have.

_{Sources:
About.com
Karremans JC, Van Lange PA, Holland RW. Forgiveness and its associations with prosocial thinking, feeling, and doing beyond the relationship with the offender. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, October 2005.
Lawler KA, Younger JW, Piferi RL, Billington E, Jobe R, Edmondson K, Jones WH. A change of heart: cardiovascular correlates of forgiveness in response to interpersonal conflict. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, Octover 2003.
Lawler KA, Younger JW, Piferi RL, Jobe RL, Edmondson KA, Jones WH. The unique effects of forgiveness on health: an exploration of pathways. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, April 2005.
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Forgiveness is ESSENTIAL to healing any relationship. It is also an ESSENTIAL part of light work and our spiritual asscent. We’re not perfected yet, so we’re inevitably going to make mistakes. As a result, there will be countless times when we’ll need to ask for forgiveness, or be forgiving, so we’d better become good at forgiveness our we’ll not get very far in our spiritual growth.

In working with forgiveness, keep these three simple principles firmly in mind. They will take you a long way toward success in your forgiveness work:

1. Forgive quickly. – Try to forgive or ask forgiveness as soon after the incident as possible.
2. Forgive and forget. – You must forgive form your heart and truly mean it to let it go.
   
3. Forgive “70×7.” – There can be no limit to forgiveness.

Remember, to forgive is Divine. When we forgive and ask for forgiveness we are reconnecting with God’s Light.
May we all do our part to shine brightly.

~Barbara Y. Martin
copyright 2010

Forgiveness is one of the biggest parts of healing any relationship. In our life experiences, we’re all bound to step on each other’s toes at one point or another. As we spiritually mature, we’re inevitably going to make mistakes. So, there’ll be many times we’ll need to be forgiving or to ask forgiveness.

It’s not always easy to forgive. Our human ego gets involved and wants to hold on to grudges, angers, and so on. We may not recognize that we have injured someone or may find it hard to forgive a person who has done us a serious wrong.

What can make the act of forgiveness so hard is we think that if we forgive someone, we’re letting him or her off the hook. In truth, when we forgive, we’re letting ourselves off the hook. There’s a tremendous freedom in forgiveness.

In the aura, there’s a beautiful exchange of energy when people really forgive. This exchange of energy usually happens at the Higher Self point which tells us right away that by forgiving, we have taken the situation out of the human personality and are acting in a divine way. When someone forgives, I often see a beautiful pink light flowing from the person doing the forgiving to the person being forgiven. Both people are being blessed by such a spiritual exchange.

In the same way, when someone is genuinely asking for forgiveness, there is also a beautiful exchange of energy. I often see a purple light flowing from the Higher Self of the person asking forgiveness to the person who is being asked to forgive. In this case, there is a lot of peace being transmitted to help quiet things down so the person is in a more receptive place to accept the forgiveness. Sometimes, I see emerald green light flowing to bring in more harmony.

Forgiveness is the great healer of love. Regardless of what is going with you, make forgiveness an active part of your life. Do your best to make peace with your spiritual brothers and sisters. You cannot ascend into the higher dimensions of life holding on to old hatred and resentments.

The spiritual energy to work with when it comes to forgiveness is the deep rose-pink ray of spiritual love. Working with this energy helps lift your spirits and puts your relationships in God’s loving hands.

In Divine Light and love,

Barbara Y. Martin